How The MILF Phenomenon Can Be Explained
In the world of porn, moms are queens. MILF (“Mother I’d Like to Fuck”, for the uninitiated) is
one of the categories that ranks highest in the ranking of most consumed porn sites. In short,
women over the age of forty are highly desired by the majority of porn consumers. The moans of
actresses like Lisa Ann, Nikki Benz, Brandi Love, or Vicky Vette echo in masturbation
bedrooms on five continents. This is one of the phenomena that would have been unimaginable a
few decades ago how middle-aged women are no less attractive than “young women”.
MILFs are so attractive, at least to the majority of men today, because they are older women with
bodies that still make any heterosexual man who looks at them horny. They are quite
experienced and often “make the decisions”. There are many MILF content titles that depict
these middle-aged women as being just as naughty as their counterparts in their teens or early
20s. For example, Free Curvy MILF XXX, Hot MILF, Naughty MILF, and many more. They
perform actions that are no less stimulating than those of much younger women but with more
unique characteristics.
The fact that MILFs play an important role in the sexual fantasies of hundreds of heterosexual
men is not trivial and should not be ignored. That is why Justin Lehmiller, a researcher at the
Kensey Institute, decided to write a book titled ‘Tell Me What You Want’ in which he tries to
discuss the reasons why moms are so desirable among the heterosexual male public. Lehmiller is
not “just any researcher”. He is a respected expert on sexual relationships who has so far released
many scientific papers explaining the facts behind different sexual preferences and why.
MILF porn reverses conventional gender roles that state that men play the dominant role
According to Lehmiller, 88% of the 4,000 men she interviewed admitted to having fantasized
about mature women on a regular basis, while 42% said they did it often. It is undeniable that
there is so much attraction to this category with such percentages. “To understand the appeal, we
have to consider how MILFs are represented in porn videos,” said the researcher in ‘Men’s
Health’ magazine. “They are often portrayed in a very different way to younger actresses.” Of
course, what is different is not the sex touches or skills of each individual but how they take part
in the porn content. There is a clear role difference between MILFs and much younger
performers.
If there’s any oddity or difference between “teens” and “MILFs”, it’s the roles they play on
screen. In this case, the older one almost always plays the dominant role, while the younger one
plays the submissive role. Depending on what the user likes at any given moment, they will
choose one option or the other. This was reflected in a study published in the ‘Journal of Sex
Research’ where the content of 50 videos of mature women and another 50 young women was
analyzed.
“MILF porn reverses conventional gender roles where men play the dominant role,” Lehmiller
theorized. According to the results of the study, MILFs are much more likely to take control
during encounters, as well as the pace of intercourse.
Another peculiarity of “adult” videos is what researchers call “occupational status.” In the “teen”
category, it was men who held the most positions of power, whether they were office managers
or teachers. But in older women, it is men who appear in roles as students or lower-level
employees.
Some research suggests that men who are attracted to MILF porn may feel more aroused by
playing the submissive role of one or more strong, dominant women. These traits involve a
certain sense of being sexually subdued or humiliated. Those traits have a connection to certain
aspects of BDSM. Perhaps fantasizing about mature women is just one of the many ways in
which people give free rein to their sadomasochistic urges.
But not only that. There is a trend that men who fantasize about this type of woman tend to need
more affection, which means they are more insecure in their relationships. Generally, they are
more worried about their partner leaving them and need more reassurance. More nervous men
are distressed by sexual rejection, so they prefer to be with people who show great interest in sex
and take the initiative.
In terms of psychology, the MILF phenomenon may be explainable but not necessarily so.
Women over 40 do have their charms and despite the fact that they are middle-aged, they are still
quite stimulating for any heterosexual man, no matter what age range they are in (above puberty,
of course). At the end of the day, MILFs are one fantasy or sexual preference that should be
treated the same as any other fantasy or sexual preference.
